Lavender Womyn Personals - Lesbian Virtual Dating

Welcome to Tips & Tricks of Dating

This website is for members of Lavender Womyn Personals (an online lesbian dating site for singles, couples and families with kids).  You will find tips and tricks on how to enhance your dating and search experience on Lavender Womyn Personals.  If you have any questions about our lesbian virtual dating site, you can send an email to customer support at:  support@lavenderwomyn.com

If you're ready to go to Lavender Womyn Personals Dating site now, go to:

http://www.lavenderwomynpersonals.com

Otherwise, you can continue reading below for tips and tricks to lesbian personal dating for singles, couples and families with kids.

A Curious Survey Result...

Before we get started, let’s make sure we’re clear on one thing: on the Lavender Womyn Personals network, you can read and reply to email for free. You don’t have to upgrade or pay anything to read and reply to your emails.

That’s understood, right?

Well…maybe not as much as we’d like to believe.

Recently we conducted a survey amongst several hundred members who signed up on our network, logged in once, and never logged in again.

We asked them what their biggest reason for not sticking around was.

40% of members who replied said:

I didn't understand that replying was free. You need to communicate this better.

Fair enough. It’s safe to assume many people find our site, create a profile on a whim, and take a quick look around, then leave. Perhaps they don’t read the details, the terms of service, or spend time getting to know the site. However, this survey answer indicates that something this basic wasn’t clear to the member who signed up. As a company, we should look for ways to better engage these casual browsers and make them want to stay, educate them as to how our service operates, and help them see the value of the Lavender Womyn Personals brand.

But I digress. It's the next response that really caught us by surprise:

A full 29% of respondents said:

I didn't believe replying was really free. There had to be a catch.

...And that brings me to my point: the true heart of motto “Online Dating You Can Trust.”

Granted, most people don’t have an inherent trust for an online dating company they may have heard of only a few minutes prior to joining.

But we, the staff of Lavender Womyn Personals, pride ourselves as being honest, real, hardworking people committed to making this network great. We take great pride in bringing this network of dating sites to you, and we commit ourselves to listening to your valued feedback.

No, we can’t always catch every scammer or every fake picture before they hit the site, but you can trust that we’ll be true to our word, we’ll keep fighting hard to make this site safe, and we’ll listen to you, our valued members, as we keep looking ahead.

That, above all, is what we mean by "Online Dating You Can Trust."

Thanks much for being here. We really appreciate it.  Click Here to visit Lavender Womyn Personals now.

By Avery Williams

Getting the Most from a Basic Membership

Many of our members at Lavender Womyn Personals have been with us for a long time and have enjoyed their experience without feeling the need to upgrade to Premium membership. The main incentive for upgrading to Premium membership, of course, is being able to INITIATE e-mail and chat contact with another member whenever you like. But if you’d rather remain a basic member, here’s a few (absolutely FREE) things you can do that will help you maximize your experience on our site:

 

Receive & Read E-mails

Unlike other sites, we allow you to read every e-mail you receive. You don’t have to pay or upgrade to receive and read your e-mails.


Reply to E-mails

Not only can you read the e-mails you receive, but you can REPLY to them as well, without ever having to upgrade to Premium membership. If you receive e-mails from Premium members, you can reply back and forth as long as you’d like.


Accept Chat and Chat Plus (Virtual Dating) Invites

As a basic member, you can receive invitations to our Chat and Chat Plus (Virtual Dating) feature, accept those invitations, and chat till your heart’s content. If you'd like the ability to invite other members to Chat, you'll need a Premium upgrade, just like initiating e-mail contact.

Send and Receive Smiles

Smiles are a way for everyone on our site, basic or Premium, to flirt with another member. When a member sends you a Smile, they are expressing an interest in getting to know you, and are putting the ball in your court. This enables you and other members to break the ice without needing to upgrade to Premium membership.

If a member sends you a Smile and you’d like to send one back, open the Smile and click the “Smile Back” button.

If you would like to send an e-mail message to the other member you may, but as always, you must be a Premium member to INITIATE an email conversation.

REMEMBER: If you put some time and effort into your profile, upload nice, clear photos of yourself, and send out lots of Smiles to members who catch your eye, you WILL get noticed!

Have fun!

By Avery Williams

Let's Talk About Credits

As you’re probably aware, Credits are a form of currency on the TangoWire network. What you might not know is the various things you can do with the credits you purchase.

For instance, you can purchase Virtual Gifts to send to other members, the “Featured Member” option that places a highly visible mini-profile at the top of search results, and SmartTexts that send you text alerts when you receive email on the site.

Basic members can use Credits to initiate email contact with other members, and turn off advertising on their profiles permanently.

Credits are available in packs of:

250 = $19.99 (.08 each)*

75 = $9.99 (.13 each)

20 = $3.99 (.20 each)

…and you can purchase them on the My Account tab after you log in.

We’re always looking for fun and engaging ways to use Credits, so we hope that you’ll share your ideas for what you’d like to see.

Let us know your ideas in the comments below!

By Avery Williams

Trouble Uploading Photos?

For our members who aren’t techno-savvy, adding photos to your profile can be a daunting task. We understand that not everyone has graphics skills, so this week, I thought I’d address the most common photo-related problem we run into when answering your customer service requests.

My photo is too big to upload. How do I make it smaller?

In most cases, the problem is that a you have taken a photo with a digital camera, and the file size of the photo exceeds our specifications.

In short: you’ve got a photo that’s just too big to upload.

So you’re going to have to shrink your photo down a bit so it will fit onto our site.

We could discuss photo editing software and the like, but I have something even better for you:

www.ShrinkPictures.com

This (free!) website will allow you to upload your huge photo and instantly shrink it down to a more manageable size. From there, you can save the picture to your computer and upload it onto our site. Try it out! It’s a great alternative to expensive photo editing software, and you might learn something along the way.

Let us know what you think! I’ll be helping out with more tips as questions arise, so feel free to suggest topics in the comments section below!

By Avery Williams

First Email Do's and Don'ts

Are you wondering why you’re not getting replies to the emails you send out? If you’re not getting good returns on your time and effort, read on.

When making first contact with someone, the biggest mistake you can make is to send out a form letter. You know what I’m talking about…the one email you send out to everyone. It never changes, it’s never personalized, and it almost never gets a response. A “Hi! I liked your profile! Write me back?” email is impersonal and, well, cheap.

You may THINK you’ve created a clever little ice breaker that you can send to everyone. But in truth, these are very easy to spot, and the recipients universally despise them.


1. First and foremost: READ THE PROFILE of the person you’re emailing. Take some time to see if you have similar interests. Then, when crafting your email, write something original and show a little initiative.

2. Introduce yourself. “Hi, I’m _____. “

You don’t have to give up a ton of personal information here. Just your name, or handle, or nickname is sufficient. Nine times out of ten, the person will respond with their name, and guess what? You’re now conversing with the other member on a personal level.

3. A compliment is a great icebreaker.

And no, I’m not talking about the “You are SO smoking hot!” compliment. Compliment something about their photo or her profile text. If you like his taste in movies or think he has great eyes, tell him so! As a general rule though, a first email should absolutely NOT contain comments on the person’s body.

4. Ask a question.

Assuming that the person you’re emailing has taken the time to fill out their profile and you read #1 above, you should find something that sticks out and ask a question about it. Let’s say the person you’re contacting likes dogs. Ask him/her if what breeds he/she likes. Ask about favorite movies, books, hangouts, etc. Asking a question immediately starts a two way conversation. And chances are, they'll respond before they think twice.

5. Don't be negative.

Last but not least: when composing an email to someone, be upbeat and positive. Even though it’s fun to compare war stories, save them for later. Your recipient isn't going to want to open an email and immediately hear about your exes, your "no's", or the various pitfalls you have encountered in your dating adventures. When composing a first email, energetic and enthusiastic trumps negative and narcissistic every time!

Above all, remember this: Present yourself as intelligent, courteous and show curiosity. Your emails don’t have to be War and Peace or a Shakespearian drama, but a simple note that shows some genuine curiosity, care, and effort will get you noticed.

By Avery Williams

A Big Red Flag

While we here at Lavender Womyn Personals (http://www.lavenderwomyn.personals.com) are always on the hunt for fakes and scammers, we can only control what happens on our site.

Scammers are acutely aware of this, so they might try to get you OFF our site as quickly as possible after their first contact with you.

To the point: be wary of anyone that wants to get you to converse via private email or instant messenger right away.

We don’t want to discourage you from moving things off the site once you’re comfortable with a new contact. It’s fine if you exchange contact information. After all, you want to meet people face to face, fall in love, and live happily ever after. But be cautious about moving too quickly, because the staff here at TangoWire can’t see what happens outside of our site, and scammers, fakes, and fraudsters count on this.

Just use caution and common sense, and you’ll be fine. And, as always, have fun!

By Avery Williamson

Get Noticed!

Occasionally, we get emails from members who are discouraged at the lack of replies they receive. For example:

“I upgraded to Premium membership, and nobody’s replying to my emails or Smiles. And nobody looks at my profile!”

When I receive an email like this, my first step is go out to the site and view the member’s profile. More often than not, the member has only logged in a few times, sent out a couple of emails, and maybe a few Smiles. They’ve usually written very little (if anything) in the “More about me…” section of their profile, and, at best, uploaded one or two blurry photos.

This tells me two things: The person isn’t very outgoing, and completely misses the point of online dating. Being shy or reserved isn’t a character flaw. That might just be who you are as a person. But if you want results, you’re going to have to step outside of your comfort zone a little and flirt!

“But that’s not my style!” you say. Fair enough, but you already took the leap and entered the online dating scene. That was a big step in and of itself. Being a wallflower simply isn’t going to work. Get energized and get active!

Upload Photos!
A good, clear photo of yourself works wonders. While some of you might not want your photos posted online for personal reasons, the fact is that the vast majority of other members want to see who you are. Members with photos are given priority in search results, too.

Log in often!
Logging into the site automatically moves your profile to the top of the search results. So logging in often and having at least one photo on your profile increases your chances of being seen a great deal.

Send lots of emails and Smiles!
Here’s where we get to the heart of the matter. You have to put some effort into meeting people if you want results. I’m looking at you, Premium members! You upgraded to Premium membership so you could make first contact with other members. Take advantage of it! Invite people to chat. Send them emails introducing yourself. Go on vDates. Have fun! And basic members: continue to log in often and send lots of Smiles. You can reply to emails for free, so being active on the site is sure to get you noticed, and garner you more emails and more chat / vDate requests.

Don’t rely on someone else to take the first step. Be proactive and put yourself out there.

By Avery Williamson

SmartText!

SmartText is a new feature that allows you to have your email messages forwarded to your mobile phone via text (SMS) so you can keep in touch with members even when you are on the go.

Best of all, the SmartText feature allows you to respond to messages anonymously from your phone without exposing your mobile number to anyone.

Furthermore, you get to choose which members' messages you want delivered via text message.

How does it work, you ask? At the bottom of every email, you’ll see a check box that says “Yes, I would like emails from this member sent to my mobile phone via SmartText. “ Check the box, follow the instructions, and you're all set.

We do not charge you to send texts, but a small fee applies to receive them. Of course, normal carrier rates do apply.

We hope you enjoy this new feature. Have fun!

By Avery Williamson

FREE New Feature: Profile Verification!

Have you ever seen someone's profile and thought "That's too good to be true?"

Well, now you have a new tool at your disposal at Lavender Womyn Personals (http://www.lavenderwomynpersonals.com)

Profile verification is a new feature on our network that will help verify that there is a real person behind the profile. While not foolproof, verification photos deter many fakes and frauds and give us an additional tool to catch them.

This is FREE, so please encourage other members to submit their own verification photo.

Here's what profile verification entails:

1. Write your Member ID on a piece of paper with thick and dark ink in a way that can easily be read.
2. Take a picture of yourself holding the paper. Your face and number must be clearly visible (no sunglasses or hats).
3. Upload it to the site by going to the "My Account" page and click on "Click here to Verify your profile."

Only our staff will see this photo. Other members will see a Gold Star on your profile indicating successful completion.

This feature launched Thursday, February 3, so there's not a lot of people verified as of this writing. However, as word spreads, we expect it to be a great success.

Spread the word!  Go to Lavender Womyn Personals now to try it out.

 

 

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