Are you wondering why you’re not getting replies to the emails you send out? If you’re not getting good returns on your time and effort, read on.
When making first contact with someone, the biggest mistake you can make is to send out a form letter. You know what I’m talking about…the one email you send out to everyone. It never changes, it’s never personalized, and it almost never gets a response. A “Hi! I liked your profile! Write me back?” email is impersonal and, well, cheap.
You may THINK you’ve created a clever little ice breaker that you can send to everyone. But in truth, these are very easy to spot, and the recipients universally despise them.
1. First and foremost: READ THE PROFILE of the person you’re emailing. Take some time to see if you have similar interests. Then, when crafting your email, write something original and show a little initiative.
2. Introduce yourself. “Hi, I’m _____. “
You don’t have to give up a ton of personal information here. Just your name, or handle, or nickname is sufficient. Nine times out of ten, the person will respond with their name, and guess what? You’re now conversing with the other member on a personal level.
3. A compliment is a great icebreaker.
And no, I’m not talking about the “You are SO smoking hot!” compliment. Compliment something about their photo or her profile text. If you like his taste in movies or think he has great eyes, tell him so! As a general rule though, a first email should absolutely NOT contain comments on the person’s body.
4. Ask a question.
Assuming that the person you’re emailing has taken the time to fill out their profile and you read #1 above, you should find something that sticks out and ask a question about it. Let’s say the person you’re contacting likes dogs. Ask him/her if what breeds he/she likes. Ask about favorite movies, books, hangouts, etc. Asking a question immediately starts a two way conversation. And chances are, they'll respond before they think twice.
5. Don't be negative.
Last but not least: when composing an email to someone, be upbeat and positive. Even though it’s fun to compare war stories, save them for later. Your recipient isn't going to want to open an email and immediately hear about your exes, your "no's", or the various pitfalls you have encountered in your dating adventures. When composing a first email, energetic and enthusiastic trumps negative and narcissistic every time!
Above all, remember this: Present yourself as intelligent, courteous and show curiosity. Your emails don’t have to be War and Peace or a Shakespearian drama, but a simple note that shows some genuine curiosity, care, and effort will get you noticed.
By Avery Williams
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